Grieving a Miscarriage or Infant Loss in Boerne & the Hill Country
Losing a baby—whether through miscarriage, stillbirth, or shortly after birth—is one of the deepest pains a family can face. If you or someone you love is grieving in Boerne or the surrounding Hill Country, you are not alone. Below is a guide to local resources, ideas for honoring your baby.
Local Support Resources
Precious Gift Ministry – St. Peter the Apostle, Boerne
A ministry that provides prayer, comfort care packages, and meal trains for parents walking through miscarriage or infant loss.
👉 stpetersboerne.com
Hope Mommies – Hill Country Chapter
A faith-based community offering emotional support, online encouragement, podcasts, and even financial help (“Gift of Hope” grants) for families experiencing loss.
👉 hopemommies.org
God’s Comfort in Loss – San Antonio Coalition for Life
Provides care packages, monthly support groups, and one-on-one encouragement for grieving families.
👉 sacfl.org
The TEARS Foundation – Hill Country Chapter
Offers emotional support and financial assistance with memorial or funeral expenses for families experiencing infant loss.
👉 thetearsfoundation.org
Children’s Bereavement Center of South Texas (San Antonio)
Provides grief counseling, peer groups, and grief camps for children and families who have experienced loss.
👉 cbcst.org
🕯️ Ways to Grieve & Remember Your Baby
Grief looks different for everyone, but finding ways to honor your baby can bring peace and meaning. Here are a few gentle ideas:
Plant something living – a tree, rose bush, or wildflowers in their honor.
Create a memory box with ultrasound photos, letters, or keepsakes.
Name your baby (if you haven’t yet) as a way to affirm their life.
Jewelry keepsakes – necklaces, bracelets, or rings with initials or a birthstone.
Light a candle on significant dates (due date, birthday, anniversary).
Join the Wave of Light, light a candle for at least one hour starting at 7 p.m. local time on October 15th to honor babies lost during pregnancy or infancy, a global event for Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Day.
Artistic remembrance – painting, origami butterflies, or a memory quilt.
Include your baby in family traditions – ornaments at Christmas, a candle at Thanksgiving, or baking a cake on their birthday.
Talk about your baby—acknowledge them as part of your family story.
Practical Guide to Getting a Grave Plot
Some families choose to have a physical resting place for their baby. Here’s a simplified guide to making that decision:
Choose a Cemetery
Visit local cemeteries in Boerne or nearby towns.
Consider faith-based vs. community options.
Understand Plot Types
Single plot (one person).
Double-depth plot (two, one above the other).
Family plots for multiple burials.
Alternatives: mausoleum, columbarium (for cremation).
Visit & Select Location
Look for areas that feel peaceful and are easy to visit.
Consider landscaping, shade, and accessibility.
Clarify Costs
Plot price + opening/closing fees.
Vault or liner (sometimes required).
Headstone/marker purchase and installation.
Perpetual care or maintenance fees.
Ask About Rules
Restrictions on decorations, flowers, or monuments.
Some cemeteries require headstones to be bought through them.
Pre-purchase or Immediate Need
Pre-purchasing can lock in pricing and location.
But reselling plots later can be difficult if you move.
Complete Paperwork
Always get a written contract with rules, costs, and terms clearly outlined.
👉 Note: Veterans may qualify for free plots and markers at national cemeteries.
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There is no “right way” to grieve. Some parents long for a physical place to visit, while others prefer a quiet memory garden at home. Some find comfort in joining a support group, others in journaling or creating keepsakes. What matters most is knowing that your baby’s life—no matter how brief—had meaning and is remembered.
If you are walking through this loss in the Boerne or Hill Country area, please know that there is a community here ready to walk with you. 💛
